Did not say it

Almost said it tonight. Got as far as, I think I need to know what the actual plan is. And he looked up and said about the roof, and I said yeah, the roof. It was not about the roof. That is three now. Three times this spring I have opened my mouth with the real sentence loaded and swapped it out on the way through my teeth for a smaller one that will not require anything of either of us. And the thing I keep noticing, and then not doing anything with, is that I always do it in a way that gives him an exit. I do not say "can we talk about something", I say something vague with a door in it, and he takes the door, and then I am annoyed with him for taking a door I built and held open and pointed at.