PATTERN
Arranged so nobody is positioned to notice
What it is
From the inside it does not look like a gap, it looks like coping, because you are not falling apart and nobody is placed close enough to see what it costs.
How it affects your life
You would catch it in four seconds in a client. The version that would worry you is not "has no support" but "has arranged her life so that nobody is positioned to notice." You know how that conversation would go, too. Defensive the first time, quiet the second time, then agreeing a bit too quickly.
Evidence
4 quotes
“I said I have Tess. She said that is one person and it is social and it is reciprocal, which is right and is also a good friendship and is not a container.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“The problem is that the word is a thing that happens to therapists who are not getting something they need, and I have spent the whole summer establishing in this journal that I am not getting something I need.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“The version of this that would worry me in a client is not "has no support" but "has arranged her life so that nobody is positioned to notice."”
First mention
Read the entry →“From the inside it does not look like a gap, it looks like coping. I am not falling apart.”
First mention
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