PATTERN
His room-giving read as the subject being closed
What it is
When Danny asks a real question and you say you do not know, he goes quiet to give you room to come back to it, and you read the quiet as the subject being closed.
How it affects your life
He asks about once a year, you let it go quiet, and then you are quietly aggrieved that he does not ask more often. He is not going to raise it again, not out of avoidance, but because in his understanding he asked and the respectful thing is to wait. Two considerate manuals that do not match.
Evidence
4 quotes
“I know what he thought my silence meant. And he knows what his not-raising-it meant to me. And neither of us had that yesterday.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“Two people doing a considerate thing at each other with completely different manuals.”
First mention
Read the entry →“He thinks he is giving me room. And I am reading the room as the subject being closed.”
First mention
Read the entry →“He asks a real question about once a year — and it is about once a year, I could list them — and I let it go quiet, and then I am quietly aggrieved that he does not ask more often.”
First mention
Read the entry →
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