RELATIONSHIP
Sue Bennett
Who they are to you
Your mother, a once-a-week-on-Sunday caller your whole life, so when she rang twice in one day you already knew. She says the hard things quickly and then moves on, which is how she tells you things she has decided not to make a thing of.
How this shows up between you
She kept your father's overnight hospital stay from you until it was over, saying she did not want to worry you while you were working. You told her that is not a thing she gets to decide, then apologised for the tone without entirely meaning it.
Evidence
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“Not Mum — definitely not Mum, who would be careful about it in a way that would require managing, and who would then tell Dad, and then there would be two people in Greenfield being careful at me from six hundred and ninety miles.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“Mum came back on and we talked about the follow-up in December, and whether he is going to do anything about the way he eats, which he is not, and both of us said so out loud this time instead of going quiet about it, which is new.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“she let a beat go past so that I could pretend it was about the wedding if I wanted to, which is extremely her”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“She said: I am not pushing. And then pushed, very gently, in the way she does, which is by saying something adjacent and true and letting you do the work.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“Sunday call. Mum asked if we had set a date.”
Reinforced later
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