Telling him once it is resolved

“thank you for telling me when you did it, and not after”

“I asked him whether it bothered him and he said no, and then after a second, said: it means I find out what has been hard once it is over.”

“he said — carefully, like somebody putting something down on a table rather than handing it over — that I usually tell him things once they are finished. The handle on the back door. The thing with Dale in September. Going back to pottery after the gap.”