OPEN QUESTION
Whether I would be told
The question
Underneath the kids question and underneath the money, the thing you found after four minutes of not typing is whether you would find out, whether you would be told. Put in one sentence, it is whether you can plan a life with somebody whose bad news arrives late. Written plainly, it is that you will have a child, there will be a bad year, he will decide on his own how much of it you need to know, and you will find out from a letter.
What hangs on it
It surfaced after Tess asked the easier question over eggs and you moved the conversation instead of answering. You already know the answer to the easy one is yes, which closed off money as the real obstacle and left this.
Evidence
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“And a child is the condition under which being told late stops being a thing between two adults and becomes a thing about a third person who cannot hold any of it.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“It is not a fear that he will fail. He does not fail, that is almost the problem, he absorbs, and he is very good at absorbing, and absorbing is a thing you do alone by definition.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“I am afraid that we will have a child, and there will be a bad year, and he will decide on his own how much of it I need to know, and I will find out from a letter. That is it. That is the whole fear.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“That is it. That is the whole thing, and I have written about six thousand words this year to avoid putting it in one sentence.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →“Whether I can plan a life with somebody whose bad news arrives late.”
Reinforced later
Read the entry →
These do nothing here. On your own map this card is yours to reword, hide or delete, and every quote opens the entry it came from.